About Rob Marks
I am an integrative counsellor and therapist using a model of understanding which sees wellbeing coming from a place of connection, the connection within ourselves with our mind, body, emotions and the elusive thing we might call soul or intuition. Further to fully experience lasting wellbeing we need to be connected with others and to nature.
Many of us experienced trauma as a child, and this can leave us with parts of ourselves which do not deal with the present in a way which brings any sense of happiness or joy. We can spend much of our time thinking about the past and worrying about the future, forgetting to experience the present.
In many instances the trauma can be so awful we disassociate from the emotional intensity of the events and find ways to survive day to day, which although helps us to survive, may not be healthy for us long term.
My understanding is most presenting issues can be understood in this context, as the responses to Complex Post Traumatic Stress in our pasts.
I have spent the last 5 years seeing clients specifically around weight loss.
I also volunteer as a therapist in an Agency where I see clients who are from an Abusive relationship, or are coping with caring for a loved one with physical or mental health issues, or indeed are the adult, who were children brought up in a household where they witnessed domestic violence or abuse.
I was a Chartered Certified Accountant and a Managing Director of a Food manufacturing business, and then as a stay at home Dad, enjoyed a few years on a smallholding trying to be self-sufficient, and deal with my own, as I now understand them, symptoms of Complex Post Traumatic Stress response.
My approach is simple in that we work to understand how you are feeling, why you might be feeling that way, then to understand it, and validate it, as part of a response to what you have been through. Often at that point, it can be useful to get used to the feelings and grieve for what you have lost as a result of it. This is done at your pace, and with mindfulness to your day to day responsibilities in the present.
We can then explore what you may want to replace painful responses to trauma with, by looking at what you can do to connect up those parts of self and connect with others and nature. This can include looking at things from a spiritual basis, but always in the way that it suits you, be it, soul, intuition, or getting back to that part of you that is your true "essence". It can also involve meditation, to reconnect with your body, or looking at your values, or morals, and testing whether they still serve you.
I am then hopeful that in relationship with me we can look at the issues you face in the present and how you then go on to react or respond to them.
I have a keen ongoing interest in the impacts of growing up with Narcissistic Parents or Siblings or experiencing Adult relationships with Narcissistic Men & Women, and the impacts of Co-Dependent behaviours in Adults.